There are times of life that lend themselves to assessing where we are, where we've been, where we want to go and how our current routines, mindsets and trajectory support or block our goals.
My birthday is one of those times for me. I turn 44 on January 20.
Honestly, I don't remember what my goals were when I turned 43. I'm not sure I had any beyond continuing graduate school and surviving (if the Lord was willing).
I haven't had a lot of goals in a while because I've felt disillusioned and unsure of whether people actually change and grow.
The last 7 years have been really hard for me, and the last year has been one of the hardest yet. Facing truths I had not previously been able to acknowledge, feeling the weight of my own shortcomings and loneliness all converged to feel like a millstone around my mental neck.
Toward the end of 2025, I made some decisions for myself that seem to be supporting my mental health. I'm not ready to talk specifics yet (maybe not ever), but I'm feeling hopeful.
8 years ago, I created this graphic to communicate the mission behind my goals and I think it's still the mission behind all of my goals.
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1. Graduate with a Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy.
2. Pass the test to get my Associate's license.
3. Start my career as a Marriage & Family Therapist.
4. Trust God with my identity and relationships - I will know that I am doing this by being less impacted by whether or not I am included by other people, I will initiate more within relationships, and I will be more consistent in communication. Overall, I will show up authentically in relationships and give without expecting anything in return.
5. Designate specific spaces where my broom, mop and hairbrush belong.
6. Take medications consistently.
7. Be consistent with health goals.
8. Take a vacation with Michael to celebrate our 25th anniversary.
9. Consistently use budgeting software.
10. Be more engaged in family life.
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